What Does "but you're not in my shoes" Mean?
Learn what "but you're not in my shoes" means, when people say it, and how to use it naturally in English.
But you're not in my shoes.
It means the speaker thinks the other person cannot judge fairly because they have not lived through the same experience.
From The Inheritance Game, Episode 23
When do people say this?
Scene Context
Someone pushes back by saying the other person does not understand their situation.
Usage Scenario
Use this in an argument when you want to remind someone that they lack your perspective. It can sound defensive or accusatory.
Better ways to say it
You're not in my shoes.
You don't know what it's like for me.
You haven't been in my position.
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